Well you didn’t expect it; it came out of the blue really. She’d waited for this for years and now he’s finally done it. Your best friends boyfriend has bent down on one knee and asked her to marry him and she’s said yes.
Now she’s getting married, she wants you as a bridesmaid but she’s also asked if you can organise the hen night. You’re honoured and flattered all at the same time and you quickly say, yes but then it dawns on you that there’s a bit more to this than you thought. Organising an event for a dozen or so girls, many of whom will be used to nights on the town every week, is no easy thing. Some girls don’t drink; some love to drink. Most have busy lives, family commitments and some can be so inflexible – Argghhh what to do?
Organising a hen night these days requires some extra effort. A meal at the local pub followed by a glass of wine and then off home isn’t going to impress anyone. It needs to be different, it needs to be a bold statement… it needs to be exciting and fun. So the challenge is on, organise a great Hen Night that everyone will love and treasure.
Ok, how to pull this off. First get together with a few others who will going and grab a pen and paper. If the hen isn’t getting a say in the proceedings as it’s going to be a surprise, then note down all the things she loves and what interests her. If she’s a sophisticated type then she probably won’t appreciate a giant inflatable condom hanging off L-Plates around her body.
Whereas blokes seem to want to do the utmost to embarrass their friends, girls want to feel and look fantastic. So if you really want some outfits but want to avoid looking like an Ann Summers party on acid, then maybe try something simple but fun. Black T-shirts with diamante-encrusted names/words can go down really well.
It’s usually a good idea to set some practical and financial parameters on the event too. A week’s stay in a 5 star New York hotel may be lovely but costs a small fortune. You need to respect people’s work and family commitments and if your idea needs a dozen people to take a week off work, you’re asking for trouble. You want to be as inclusive as possible.
A great Hen event can be exactly that, a one or two-day event. This simply means breaking down what you do into daytime and nighttime activities. Another reason you may want to do this is to be inclusive. There will be people who can’t or don’t drink, others who will need to leave early due to family or personal commitments, so breaking down the event into sets of
Activities maximises the chances that everyone can join in at some point or other. Your hen gets to see all her best friends and you will have a happy hen on your hands.
You can choose an activity for the day of your night time event, or pick one for the morning after. What you will want to choose for daytime activities will of course depend on the age and the type of party you have, but below are some great ideas:
With the daytime taken care of its time to raise the stakes for the evening entertainment. For a Hen Night, the night entertainment usually wants to be lively as it’s your group’s chance to let their hair down.
It can be a good idea to have the event away from your hometown. You may not want to bump into people you know and it could spoil dares and harmless flirtations with men you meet. So for a carefree vibe – go somewhere different.
It’s also worth thinking practically again for a moment too. High heels are going to be a must for most women and so walking around for ages is not ideal. If your shoes are made to go from ‘car to bar’ then that’s probably as far as you want to be walking! If venues can be close together it’s a bonus.
If budget allows, try and stay in an accommodating hotel together. Most people hate worrying about getting the last train home or stressing whether their friends got back safely – especially if they’ve had a few too many. Meeting at breakfast the next day to recount the night’s adventures can also be a lot of fun too.
Here are some ideas for great Hen Nights you will always remember:
With all these ideas your Hen Night is bound to be a lot of fun for everyone involved and don’t be surprised if you have more friends coming up to you afterwards asking you to organise their events. You have been warned!